If you did, you’re not alone. Like move-in day,
Family Weekends are often heavily laden with high and unrealistic expectations
on both sides. Your child really does want to see you, but he probably also
wants to hang out with friends over the weekend too. He may have high hopes
that you’ll take him to the local Wal-mart or Target to stock up on what he
considers necessities and you consider junk. Communicating about expectations
before the weekend is essential to avoid disappointment.
About a week before you arrive for the weekend,
confirm where and when you will arrive and discuss where and when you would
like to spend time with your child. You may both decided that it will make more
sense for you to meet for dinner on Friday night, attend the Friday night concert
and then skip the Saturday morning events and see each other a couple of hours
before the game. You may also decide that you don’t want to try to sit with
your child at the game, but that your younger child will join him in the
student section of the stadium. Maybe your child has started attending a campus
church service on Sunday mornings and wants you to join him for that before you
visit his favorite campus haunts.
Whatever you decide to do, talk it over first
and nail down some specifics, but also be flexible when you arrive on campus.
Remember, you’re there to see your child and get a feeling for how he’s doing
and what his life is like in his new home, a set schedule is nice, but not
necessary.
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